My little sister came to me a couple of days ago and was telling me about her Junior Prom coming up next month. I was silently vomiting in my mouth listening to the ear-bleeding details. Colors, hair, shoes, boys…. I don’t let her date, so that one was particularly hard to swallow. Anyway, as I’m choking down her words, suddenly she tells me something interesting. They are holding a separate prom for LGBT student’s.
Now let me just fill you in real quick, for the sake of bad journalism: Equality is something I want, for several reasons, personal and otherwise … though I am tired of the fact that we still have to fight for it. And my sister? I started her young. She is the most open-minded, genuine and non-judgemental person you will ever meet. And I say that not only because she is my best friend. Oh man, now I’m crying. Jeez. Anyway, I just thought I’d get it out of the way that we are on that side of things. Now, I’ll continue.
We live in a fairly tolerant community, and my sister’s high school likes to pride itself on that (though it’s the same high school that I went to … the one that did nothing to bullies & put blame on the victims). But separate proms? Are you fucking kidding me? My sister said that they were throwing it for protection; so that the LGBT kids could be open and not have to fear harassement. So first instinct may be, “Well, hey, that’s kind of cool.”
No. It’s not. It’s segregation. Remember when segregation in America became illegal? But how the South still refused to integrate sports, teams, dances? How we would call it everything but what it was … the separation of student’s based upon things they could not change.
In my opinion, separate proms represents the disgusting battle going on in this country; a battle that should not even have to be fought. So you want to let LGBT kids have a safe prom? Then line that fucking venue up with teachers and let it be known that there will be zero tolerance for harassment. Kick a kid’s ass out the first time he does or says anything wrong. Splitting up the dance just says, “Hey, we endorse the bullying,” by default,, “Because we ain’t gonna do shit about the bullies so we’ll just let those other kids have a different location”. It says that the school isn’t willing to do what is necessary to allow what is rightfully deserved: one prom for all student’s.
I’m sickened, I really am. Usually, issues don’t get to me like this. I’ll just nod my head and give a “Whatever.” But this is wrong. It’s wrong and a step backward. It’s unfair to those kids. The kids that have the fucking courage to open themselves up in a world that still condemns them; the brave souls that fight this fight. It does them a grave injustice, and I am ashamed.
If this is a “tolerant” school, then I bow my head in sadness to what happens at the intolerant ones. I know harsh bullying, and I know what it does to a person. I also know what is feels like to have the school turn it’s cheek and offer up sub-par solutions that cradle the bullies … maybe without realizing it.
So now is the part where I would love to hear your opinion. Please share while keeping in mind that I am open to conversation. If you don’t agree with me, I’ll listen to you … but I won’t allow or accept hate speech. I want to know what you think.