Well it’s here, the day where couples that have been neglecting each other all year buy a bunch of overpriced crap and pretend they still care. At least, that’s what I see everyone else writing.
My thoughts? Well, I’m a sucker for holidays, and an even bigger one for romance. I may be a cynic with everything else, but with holiday’s & romance, I refuse to be. Any excuse to give an extra “I love you,” is good in my book.
To me, Valentine’s Day isn’t just for the significant others … which is why us singles can still enjoy the day (stay with me!). It can be for mom or dad, sister or brother. I bought a box of chocolates for mom and sis, and I’m making a dinner tonight for us three. I told you, I’m a sucker for holidays, and use the excuse to make the day special.
Problem is, there are lots of people that do neglect each other all year. Life happens, and somewhere along the way, we forget to show our love to those we cherish. I may be fucked up and crazy; I may be ugly and disappointing to some; I may be selfish and mean at times … but I always let those I love know they are loved by me. Like with my little sister, I say “love you” to her about a dozen times a day, and I make sure the last thing we say to each other at night before bed or over the phone is “I love you.” I say it often, with meaning behind it, because I want it to be so engraved in her mind that there is never any question. There aren’t many people that I love; I don’t feel obligated to love family members, and I don’t believe “blood is thicker than water.” If I love someone, it’s because my heart & soul would be empty without them; when I love someone, and I say it, they can be sure that it is pure and raw and honest. I love passionately, and so I do not love many people. I also know the horrible feeling of being unloved. Which is why it is important to me to let those people always feel & know that they are cherished.
So Vday has come and you realize that you haven’t done such a good job at saying and meaning the I love you’s? What’s so wrong with taking a commercialized day and personalizing it? What’s so wrong with buying a card and an overpriced box of chocolates? What’s so wrong with buying nothing, and just using the day as an excuse to sit around with loved ones and watch that old favorite movie? I just don’t get what’s so wrong with taking a day to just stop thinking so much. It’s all that thinking that got us in this mess in the first place.
Love Day doesn’t have to be such a horrible thing. Even if it just means loving yourself today.